How Not to Hate Your Husband After Kids Hardcover – March 21, 2017

Despite the title, this book is actually great for husbands too. I shared a lot of the information and hilarious anecdotes with my husband and we had a good laugh, and some great conversations.Luckily, I found this book when my daughter was just 6 months old and resentment had not settled in.A great read, especially if you need a good laugh about the hard parts of being a parent.

LOVED this book. It SIGNIFICANTLY helped bridge the gap for my husband and I to fully understand the impact our child has on our relationship. The personal details combined with research helped us approach issues from a different perspective. Will definitely be re-reading chapters as I’m sure we will need refreshers.

I’m a first time mom with a 10 month old and a beautiful partner. This book was recommended to me by my therapist and trust me it was totally worth the read!

This book is a fun, incredibly well researched look at what drives our relationship problems, and provides a wealth of information on some possible solutions.This book showed up after looking through some books on parenting, and I was hooked by the title so I bought it for myself. I didn't know exactly what to expect, but our relationship was summed up pretty neatly right there on the front page.Folks, I could not put this book down for the life of me. My wife and I are going through a rough patch right now, and I saw a lot of our issues reflected back at me in here. There were some parts that really hurt to read, but sometimes I need to hear the hard truths. There were also many moments of "hey, that thing she said good husbands do, I do that!"If you want a good book on relationships with some good parenting advice along the way, this is one for the ages.

This book has changed my life by changing my perspective on so much....very highly recommend!! I actually may buy this for any expecting moms as their shower gift honestly.

Today is Mother’s Day, and I read the entire book today. This morning I thought “maybe just this once my husband will let me sleep in..” and then proceeded to look over as he lay awake staring at the ceiling, and our 4 year old was in the bathroom messing with the toilet (a disaster waiting to happen). I got up and made sure to vocalize my disappointment. He promptly told me to “shut up”. He went into retreat mode and ducked out to the garage to smoke cigarettes and watch YouTube videos. I asked him to leave for the day, because being here without being here? Yeah no, not today, please. To my surprise he took our 4 year old with him, and left me to a quiet(er) house with only 2 toddlers. Reading this book- I laughed, I cried, it touched me in ways I didn’t expect. I appreciate Jancee’s sense of humor and her candor. I’ve been in the parenting game for 13+ years and I have a divorce under my belt. Nothing kills relationships more than being unheard, unseen, and subsequently- unloved. It’s sadly been happening in my current marriage and I’m at the end of my rope. So reading this and another book, are my last attempts to find some sort of reason to not give up. I have directly told my husband I hate him. Marriage is tough! But I did find the book to give practical ways to improve problem areas. I will keep trying.

Even though the title is funny I’m sure it’s a huge turn-off for many people. It’s the kind of book I would want to give a couple for the arrival of their first baby if it weren’t for the title, which is unfortunate because it is actually really full of practical advice.A few of the reviews complained about the first few chapters just focusing on the author’s nonstop complaining and drama with her husband. I think the idea was to set up a scenario, but that particular relationship dynamic isn’t going to be relatable to everybody. Keep reading, it soon gets more useful with each chapter being about a different topic. I think 90+ % of couples will be able to use at least some of the advice in this book.

After our baby was born, I really felt like the bulk of the new baby-related responsibilities fell on me. What happened? We were supposed to be in this together? Well, this book made me feel like I wasn't alone.The author uses her relationship and anecdotes from her own life to help explain why women often feel overwhelmed and sometimes resentful towards their spouse after the baby comes along. And she does it in a way that's entertaining. There were some sections that I actually took pictures of and texted my husband to read.To be clear - This is not a husband bashing book, it actually gives advice on how to work together to tackle all the extra work that comes with having a baby. After discussing tips that can help with your communication throughout the book, she summarizes them at the end. Here's an example that resonated with me: don't create a narrative about why your spouse did or didn't do something. If there were dishes left in the sink, I'd think "He is leaving these so that I'll do them because he hates dishes, that's not fair!" Realistically, he might have just dropped it in the sink on his way out the door assuming he'd do them later (or not even making a conscious thought of it). I shouldn't waste energy getting mad because of my own assumptions before talking to him about it.Anyway, I'd recommend this book to any new parent. Maybe you already have great communication skills, but once that baby comes it's easy to forget that you and your spouse are in this together!

This book really resonated with me. It’s made things so much better by at least knowing I’m not on my own.The only thing I don’t like about it having read it is the title. It would be great to share the insights in this book with my husband. But then I’d have to own up to “not liking him much at times” since we’ve had kids which doesn’t help this type of conversation set off on the right footing!

Extremely helpful book when stuck in a pattern of resentment of your husband, with a lot of helpful tips, and actually makes me feel better about how many women are dealing with this!!The only thing that would have earned it an extra star for me, is a chapter to explore the different dynamic with a husband from a very patriarchal culture where generation after generation have enforced that women do everything at home and the women just suck it up and get on with it, and the man doesnt lift a finger. So it's not just as the case with her husband that he got lazy and took advantage of the situation, for some men it's teaching from generation after generation that you're fighting, not just general slipping into it from both sides as is most of the examples from this book.But as I said, it's a great book that I'm sure I'll return to, if only to work up the patiencd to shower praise on a lazy husband to get him to do something, as the author said its extremely hard to even think of doing!

Really useful book with some practical tips on how to communicate once children have blown your world apart. My only criticism is the title - husband will never read it with this title! Publisher - please consider a rerelease with a more “husband-friendly” title!

Not a bad read, very American based but most points transfer well. As another person has commented, there are many studies mentioned which show various trends, but none of these are cited properly- there should be references given to the different studies, books etc so people can read the full thing if they want. Generally fairly interesting, but can't say it was worth the $10 (pounds, but no pound sign on my keypad!) I paid for the kindle book.

Finally, having been trying for about 8 years (th start of parenthood) to get a handle on these concepts, name them, and explain them to other people - I find a book that really gets it.Then also find all the actual men/woman research I love that helps me see what really is down to being different rather than imagined. Or put on to take advantage as I fear!Too many helpful concepts and discussions to list here, but for any disgruntled, miserable or depressed parent taking on the "motherload" and unable to enlist your other half - this is the one. Read it, and especially love the summary at the end that helped me remember the main points without flicking back through on my phone. Just a shame he won't read it, off to put the rest into practice....