He's Not That Interested, He's Just Passing Time: 40 Unmistakable Behaviors Of Men Who Avoid Commitment And Play Games With Women (Smart Dating Books for Women)

He seems very knowledgeable . Worth reading...he covers quite a few familiar topics that happen all the time at all ages

As someone older than 55, it surprised me to become the target of unwanted male attention. My age protected me from foolish behavior, since this player is around 8 years younger than me: handsome, well kept, charming and quiet (he wears a full beard to conceal his age). The obvious question arose? Why would such a man be interested in me?He started to stare at me. He placed himself close to me. He busied himself around me. And, there was almost a collision when he crossed my path unexpectedly. He’s been dancing this tango for a few months, thus making me feel uneasy.Since I can’t prove anything, because he hasn’t done anything, I decided to watch the movie: He’s Just Not That Into You. That led to reading the book with the same title (don’t skip it, ladies), and then to an Amazon recommendation to read this book. Since I haven’t been in the dating scene for decades, I was grateful to read this eye opener. Not only did I understand the mind games of this man, but I also understood the mind games that past love interests played in distant moments of my life.I can’t recommend this book enough to those ladies who don’t want to be a “beautiful distraction” for bored men, non-committal men, players, etc. Moms of teenagers should also inform themselves about the games some men choose to play today in order to protect their daughters. Personally, I found it really valuable and empowering to be made aware of these mind games that have no place to be played near me.

Great book where the author puts in plain language the tricks that men use today in dating games. I enjoyed every single page. I learned a lot. Hopefully you will do as well.

As I was reading through this book, it shocked me how accurate this is. I could relate to so many of these examples given about how men act. I learned so much. And now I will be able to recognize the signs before I waste my time with a man. Thank you to the author!

Thank you, Bruce! I was dumped without warning a year ago by a man who had called and texted me almost every day for 9 months (he lives in another state, but we are less than a day's drive apart, so we got together on occasion).I think he has about 75% of the red flags you talk about in the book. Still, I kept hoping if I hung around long enough he'd decide I was "the one," a perilous philosophy you cover very well.After he dumped me, we "stayed in touch" with a few texts and calls every now and then over this past year, so this past July he knew I was having a surgery that required general anesthesia and an overnight hospital stay (thus, fairly serious), and he never called or even texted afterwards to see how I was!I also have daddy issues that you described to a "T." I have spent much of my adult life falling for men who gave me attention but not commitment. Your book empowered me to (1) know the difference and (2) never, ever waste my time again on a time-waster -- to differentiate between a man who is attracted to me but is not ever going to commit and one who is sincerely interested in me.The sad part is I'm not convinced that there are any men out there that I would like who would actually want to commit to me, but I'll be much less naive in my romantic life going forward.Oh, one more thing: The Universe has a sense of humor. The morning after I downloaded your book and had read about 80% of it, he texted me, after many weeks of crickets, with a very generic message. Alas, I did respond (the lesson hadn't fully sunk in), but afterwards I didn't feel any sadness at all, went on with my day and haven't thought much about him since. Before, every time he reached out, it plunged me into a several-day depression. Not this time because I knew who I was dealing with. That's progress! And I won't respond if he texts again.

I like the fact that it’s an easy read and gives basically good advice about not wasting too much time with a man that isn’t willing to fully commit. Mr. Bryans fails to include men who have characteristics placing him on the Autism Spectrum- the prior term was Asberger’s. They may not be diagnosed and have no interest in exploring why they react like they do or behave in hurtful ways, and tend to blame you for all of the relationship difficulties. They will seldom, if ever, apologize for bad behavior, and claim that you are solely the problem. It’s not that you’re “ not the one,” rather, they can only be with someone who demands very little of them, doesn’t mind their repeated disappearances after an argument and conforms to their strict need for planning, routine and predictability. I believe there are many men like this. They can be sexy, charming and fun to be around but when life throws a few difficulties into the mix( kids, sickness, etc.) they cannot be relied upon. Hope this helps some people dealing with a partner who is possibly on the AS.

First time ever reading a book like this and I must tell you that I enjoyed every second of it. I have learnt so much and will definitely apply what i’ve learnt in my next relationship.