I Hate You--Don't Leave Me: Third Edition: Understanding the Borderline Personality Paperback – September 7, 2021

A great book. So helpful

It is helping me to better understand the mental health journey my granddaughter is on, while she is working with her counselor. I was not at all knowledgeable about borderline personality disorder. I feel more compassionate about her mood disorders and sometimes erratic behaviors. I wanted to show compassion and some basic understanding.

I definitely recommend this as a place to start if you or someone you know is dealing with BPD.The book is written for a general audience and doesn't require any formal experience with psychology for therapy.The book is full of anecdotes describing the disorder, in addition to the DSM criteria and formal research information about treatment options. The anecdotes are really important because BPD behavior is all over the place, manifesting differently from patient to patient. If you or someone you know suffers from BPD, you'll find that some of the anecdotes are irrelevant, but others are so hauntingly similar to your own life that you'll swear you wrote them yourself.This book is also pleasantly up-to-date. I'm reading another book now that was published in 2003, and the major difference that I notice is that the prognosis for fixing BPD is a lot more optimistic than it used to be. The 2003 book paints BPD as a very challenging disorder, resistant to treatment. This book is more optimistic, and has data to back that optimism up.

If you have someone in your life suffering from an NDP this a a must read. Explains a lot. Gives good strategies to use.

Great book for those experiencing BPD in their life, including the individual and their loved ones. My mom suffers from pretty severe BPD and this book answered so many questions I’ve had for a long time. It has positively influenced how I perceive and react to her traits and behaviors which have caused chaos in the family dynamic for many years.The author uses real-life examples to demonstrate many different combinations of behaviors and personality traits that someone with BPD could portray, and steps the individual and their family can attempt to repair the family dynamic and adapt so that these individuals can maintain healthy relationships and function in society.I’m getting a lot of insights from this book, would certainly recommend.

I ordered this as a woman with BPD and it has been incredibly insightful.

I own a previous edition of this book and it has been quite helpful. This book is thoroughly researched, easy to comprehend, and very insightful. I recently decided to order a copy for a dear friend and saw that the book had been updated. Being curious about the changes, I ordered a new one for myself, as well.Money well spent! The new version is easier to understand, has many new and relatable examples, and contains updated research. If you are living with, or love someone that is dealing with, BPD, I can't recommend it highly enough!

My daughter loves this book as a person with BPD. It was suggested for her to read by her mental health professional. And she explained that it’s very helpful to her because it makes her feel like she is not alone in her process.