How to Instantly Connect with Anyone: 96 All-New Little Tricks for Big Success in Relationships Paperback – April 27, 2009

This book not only taught me some trick for connecting with people. It validated some of my own thoughts and feelings about interaction. I liked the idea that everyone is sensitive about themselves, so respect that in others. I liked the ways to get out of an uninteresting conversation without offending the person. I have always disliked it when a conversation someone ends a pleasant interaction with a gruff or annoyed tone. Now I know I am not the only one.Leil shares her own experiences of her recovery from shyness. I liked that because I am a recovered shy person. I also remember every interaction I have ever had with anyone and the date of it. Consequentially, my trip through social skills lane has been a marathon. However, How To Instantly Connect With Anyone was a Quantum Leap. I am exited to order and read Leil's other books.

Excellent book with useful tips on how to handle all types of social and business interactions that will leave a favorable impression on people.

The book doesn't disappoint. Part solid tips to try and the other part the stories from the author's life and experience that helped her figure out why they work. Having used most of her tips to great effect I can vouch for their effectiveness. My emails and texts have gotten much better responses since trying out the tips.You should know the book is written with the business professional in mind but the ideas can be applied by anyone. It does sometimes feels like the book could be a lot shorter and still say the same thing but the stories do give the facts a fun flowing feel.So,Not a cure all, but a nice, quick, and useful read.

Making small talk and connecting with people is very difficult for me. I am shy and have extreme trouble making eye contact even though I have the size of an NFL lineman.This book is quite good and I am very glad I got it. I keep it handy and refer back to it quite often. I bought a few of her books and after making a conscious effort to improve I am seeing results. It's not 100% natural for me yet but seeing improvements makes all the difference. I am certain that with enough practice and time, it will be close to 100% natural. I had no idea how much this was holding me back until I started working on it.

I enjoyed reading this book..it offered numerous techniques to connect with others in a postive manner!! Especially today with the social mediaIsolating face to face contact...this book shows YouWays that can assist You to become confident when your environment dictates that You need to do a face to face ..

This book starts off fairly strong, with some good advice for actually connecting with people during conversations (tricks to improve eye contact, how to figure out what topics will be relevant to the person you're talking to, etc.) But later it devolves into a bit of an etiquette guide. A lot of the tips are a bit common-sense-y, but some of them are just ridiculous. The author is apparently the most sensitive person EVER- here's a brief list of what's apparently not-okay to say:"This is my friend, Harry." Because Harry is a PERSON with a NAME so you should always say "This is Harry, my friend." Same with spouses. I can kind of see this being a nice way to respect your underlings ("Leil, my assistant" instead of "My assistant, Leil") but I've certainly never been offended by being introduced as a wife or friend. I value those roles and they ARE part of who I am. They say a lot more about me than my name, which is shared by all sorts of other people (including a pedophile high school teacher that was in the news recently. Charming!)"Drive Safely/Have a safe trip!" Because it implies that maybe it WON'T be safe and OH NOES!!!"That's a great picture of you!" ... compared to real life, where you're an absolute DOG. Bwahah!"No problem!" ...but every other time you ask for something, it IS a problem."You look great!"... which is unusual, because like I said before, you are an absolute dog.Seriously, if you meet someone who's so self-obsessed and paranoid that they are offended by "You look great", you are better off NOT connecting with them. And running, far, far away. Maybe I'm just unsympathetic since I don't have an ego made of glass, but....come on. If you're that fragile, that's YOUR problem, not mine. Learn to take a comment in the spirit it was intended.Also offensive: postcards, out of office messages that say that they are automated, "Have a nice day". Aaaaand so on.Well you want to know what I find offensive? Mixing Daffy Duck up with Porky Pig. The phrases "Big Cat" and "little puss" (clearly you're trying to imply that unsuccessful folks are pussies, so just say it.) And most of all, this comment:"A quick note for my sisters: When writing to men, drop words that express how you feel, like: "I am thrilled that..." or "I am so happy that..." Remember, men don't have feelings. At least, most of them don't admit it!"Yes, you're right. 50% of the population are pathologically unable to process comments involving feelings like happiness. That's not even remotely sexist. BUT LORD SAVE THEM if they tell you that you look great!

If you have already read her first book on the 92 tricks, you will find she near reuses some of her former tricks but does put them in a new package. If you have already read the first book, this would be a four to a four and a half star book. If you haven't read her first one, this is a five. Highly suggest that you read both though.

There are many sound suggestions, and many that border on or are dishonest and seek to avoid the truth. It's a great read to understand both HOW women lie and HOW they justify it in their own minds. But are women just trying to avoid the truth to get off easy. The Author says it is to protect people's ego. But do they lie because it the easiest path to take?I recommend the book for reasons given above!